Do you always live in fear,failure and defeet?If so why?Maybe its because you were told many times you were ugly,stupid,uncoordinated,would never have any friends or you would never amount to anything or some other negative demeaning remarks.It is time to stop believing that junk.

You may have been around people for a long period of time who think that way about themselves and you picked up there way of thinking,attitudes and habits.Maybe you were abused physicaly,sexualy,verbaly,emotionaly and mentaly and somehow began to believe you deserve it,so you feel wothless and dirty and blame yourself for it,dont do that anymore.No one can make you feel inferiour without your permision.If they continue to give you that junk look at it as there problem dont accept it as your own.

You need to limit your time with these people,I am not saying never have anthing to with your family members and friends who think and act that way but,there are cases were breaking off all ties is the best thing to do for instance if it involves physical or sexual abuse.Be there for them if they need you and pray for them but limit your time with them because they will hold you back and keep you down and it will be much harder to change and grow.There are many people who have overcome that type of thinking who in the process discover positive qualities and God given talents and abilities they never knew they had and never would have discovered them had they not worked on changing with Gods help.

It is time to stand up to the people who are constantly putting you down and giving you a hard time.Once they state there case that should be the end of it.If it continues make up your mind and tell them you are not going to get to me with that junk anymore,I wont let you.And if they are going to talk to you and treet you that way you will not listen to them.Then stick to your guns.Stay right away from them as much as possible,give it to God and let him deal with them.If what they are saying is true confess it to God and ask for forgiveness then move on.

How do you go from negative,failure and defeet thinking to solution thinking?First of all and most inportantly when a challenge comes up in your life give it to God and ask him to guide you through it.Dont think of them as problems anymore think of them as challenges.If you think of it as a problem you will have a tendency to get into negative,failure and defeet thinking.Constant negative slows down the flow of creativity and causes your brain to release harmful chemicals that tear the body down and lower the antibodies in your system which increases your risk of disease and slow down or even stop the recovery and cause stress,depresion,doubt and fear and in that condition people rarely take the action necesary to overcome the challenge.ON the other hand positive thinking and attitudes will open the flow of creativity and opens the mind to solution thinking.People with positive attitudes tend to smile and laugh more which trigers the brain to relese more endorphines which are the bodies natural pain killers many times stronger than morphine,as well as seritonen and norepinephrine which gets depleted when you stay down to long and you wind up with an endocrin imbalance.If you tend to be more positive you will think yes this hard it is a challenge but with Gods help I will overcome it,I can do this.You will be living in the solution instead of the problem.Just pray in your own words,this is the challenge I have,lead,guide and direct me through it,give me the courage,strength and wisdom I need to do whatever I have to do to get it done.Then you thank him ahead of time for his help and ask that his will be done.Ask him to establish the thoughts in your mind that will establish the attitudes that will establish the habits that will change your life.Get in the bible and pray that every day and it will be done.

Now in order for this to happen you need to spend more time in your bible and prayer.And if you dont do that start right away while you are still thunking about it.You may also have to change the kind of books and magazines you read,what you watch on television and at the movies as well as the people you asociate with.The bile says whatsoever things are pure,honest,lovely and of good report and of good report think on these things.

If you havnt started yet go back to the encouragement page and start doing the three steps.I know it works because I got called stupid and retard and was told I would never amount to anything when I was in grade school and junior high by some of my teachers because I was the quiet type.By the time I was out of grade school the other kids didnt say that anymore cause they got walupd and even though I never contiously believed that it was still in the back of my mind.After reading a lot of books I came up with this program which is acualy bits and pieces of several ather programs put togeather.And most importantly if you havnt accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as your personal saviour go back to the encouraging word page and for more detailed information the salvation page to read how to do that.Dont wait,you dont know how long you have left.